February 1, 2018
In the last three weeks, I’ve seen more negativity come out of otherwise responsible adults than I think I’ve ever seen in my life. I wish I was talking about politics but I’m not. I’m talking bullying instigated by agency professionals.
Maybe it’s insecurity or maybe it’s just a sign of the times but this behavior is stunning to me. What makes otherwise accomplished adults revert to pettiness normally only found in high school lunchrooms?
Seriously! Someone explain it to me because I have no idea.
The only thing I do know is that whether by deed or by word, this negativity does nothing good for the hater. Sure, there’s a momentary high and maybe even a sense of accomplishment in tearing down others. However, both are always temporary.
Take it from someone who has had to walk through decade of bullying.
While the target of the hater may end up stronger, the hater themselves sees that hate erode their core from the inside out.
This isn’t naiveté either, it’s fact. Studies at Duke and Michigan State have revealed that bullying has serious long-term negative physiological effects.
When I see an adult stoop to the level of tearing people down so they feel better, there’s more to pity than to be angry at. In other words, let the haters hate.
Pass the love on. Pass the encouragement forward. You’ll end up better in the long run.
August 6, 2014
Ever notice that companies love to talk about what kinds of perks they offer as a way of explaining their company culture?
For instance, they talk about “flex time” when they value loyalty and longevity. When they value energy and hyperactive productivity, they talk about “cross-functional training.” My favorite “perk pitch” though is when they say they “work hard, play hard!”
You hear this phrase a lot in the agency world. Most people take this to mean that the culture is young, fun and driven. Companies talk about all the fun things they do like Thursday afternoon socials, wild and crazy holiday parties, and sometimes even cruises.
What it really means, though is that they company wants you to gloss over the time you spend in the office in preference for remembering the good times when they got you plastered.
In my experience, the companies that tout a “work hard, play hard” mentality use it to excuse a lack of attention and interest in the actual working environment.
Now, maybe this is something that other people knew, already. Perhaps its an accepted fact and people are perfectly fine excusing the 8 to 14 hours a day they spend in the office as long as they get to blow off that steam at the end of it.
To me though, this is a relatively new realization. I say “relatively” because I stopped working at those kinds of companies when I stopped drinking. The least rewarding part of my job became the times I have to stand around during office parties watching other people make idiots out of themselves.
What I wanted in a work experience changed and I became a lot more cognizant of the time I spend in the office. To me, I want a company culture that works for a purpose and cultivates their employees talent with peer-to-peer development and a chance to explore your own career potential.
I’m not trying to disparage recreation with your co-workers. I’m really not. I just find there’s something to this pattern I can’t ignore.
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